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From: Katy
Date: 19 Nov 2002
Time: 22:25:08
Remote Name: 12.218.116.211
Limited time on my computer;not enough to peruse every site looking similar Q&A's - I just want to ask another woman, is sex an over-rated disappointment for ALL women?
I waited until marriage for sex, expecting my world to rock or something similar. I gave it nearly two years. I still hate it. My husband is attentive, willing to spend all the time I "need", etc etc - I truly think it's not him, it's me.
I've never been sexually abused, never done drugs, am not on any medication, but I get no physical sensation from sex whatsoever. Been married two years; I love my husband, am attracted to him, but have never orgasmed. Now I'm just tired of it. Sex is too much work - all that time and effort for what...no orgasm, just a wet spot? Sounds callous; am I the only wench to feel this way?
So lately I've started picking fights when I suspect my hubby wants sex...just to assure I don't have to do it yet again (he has the libido of a teenager; I've tried 'wearing him out' in the past just to see if it can be done with disappointing results. He's always ready for more, and I'm just tired/bored.)
My husband's personality seems to change, even when he hasn't had sex for a few days. I like to think he's above using sex as a tool, but by the end of a week I usually end up having sex with him just to make him 'nice' again. I don't think he's even aware of it all.
So now I'm getting to the point of HATING sex. I don't want to turn into one of those cynical, bitter woman who spews out hilariously hateful comments about sex and/or men, but yikes - I'm starting to identify with them!
I'm open to any input, honestly - someone please respond!
Thanks -
Katy